No relationship can work without taking certain steps in the right direction. In fact, to make a relationship work, you have to have the right mindset. As you probably already know, it is not always rainbows and butterflies, there will be hard times which you as a couple will have to face from time to time. Accordingly, when you decide to date or enter into a relationship, gear up to have an optimistic mindset and let go of things that can hamper your relationship. Here is an outlook at a positive mindset that will take your relationship from A to Z!
Don’t act like what you are not
A very common phenomenon observed with most of the first dates is when a person behaves like what he or she is not in order to impress the date. The whole mindset is to impress the partner by showing sides of a personality which is being acted out instead of being the original! Now this is one thing you should never do! A little impressing here and there is totally alright. But putting out a façade of false personality is a strict No! On the positive side, look at a mindset of portraying yourself the way you are. After all, no charade can be held for a long time!
The fact goes that everyone has something special in their personality. What may impress one person will not necessarily impress the other. Therefore, it is best to be oneself and stick to the personality traits of oneself rather than imitate a personality who we consider our better!
Have the right attitude
Dating undeniably goes hand in hand with having the right skill and the right attitude for dating. You cannot date successfully leaving out any of the two. If you have the right attitude, but do not have the skills to charm and impress the date, the right attitude is of no use. On the contrary, if you have the right skills but not the correct attitude, your skills are hardly going to impress your date!
Accordingly, what you need to have is a positive outlook where you are dating for mutual happiness. If you like your date and want to pursue the relation further, there is no point playing mind games and postponing the inevitable. Instead, have a clear mindset and pursue the relationship with a clear intent of carrying it on in the future. It might just be the attraction point in you!
Accept that there will be some adjustments
Another mindset to definitely accept is that there will be possible adjustments in your life once you start dating. This is true for the simple reason that, a new person entering your life is bound to have some impact in your daily routine. Now, you cannot be frustrated and stress out because of small and minor changes in your life.
In fact, learn to embrace them. Understand the fact that if the new person is bringing about a change to your life, so are you bringing about a change to that person’s life. Therefore, if the other person has happily accepted you, so should you! Have this mindset next time and you will definitely see that your charm has gone up by a margin!
Make your partner laugh
Now, this does not mean that you act like a clown and make your partner want to run away! What this mindset basically means is that, in order to have the ice broken down and the awkwardness finished, you need to make your partner laugh. Now, this can be achieved by little fun flirting, or some nice stories of your past. Just a little laugh ride to drown away the tensions of your lives.
If you do not have the talent to make the other person laugh, try developing it. It is not all that difficult. Just believe and undertake your actions with a positive mindset!
Do not expect a transformation
Believe me, the partner you are dating is not Cinderella’s fairy godmother! Do not expect the partner to change you or transform you in any way. Often times this problem is seen when one person feels he or she certain charm and qualities and expects the dating partner to change that for them. Well, your dating partner has other bigger things in life and cannot possibly be your personality tutor! So, do not expect a Cinderella transformation.
Fortunately, it is also true that while you are dating, there will be natural changes in your personality, your looks and other things in life. But that is natural! No body is forcing them on you! Accordingly, go with natural changes and enjoy them. Do not live with the mindset that you should date in order to get a personality change!
Do not play games
The last of the positive mindset in this piece of writing is to avoid playing games at all cost! Now this does not mean that you should not play little harmless mind games. That is totally alright! What you should avoid doing is playing games which might hurt the other person.
Take for example, if you do not like the first date and do not want to continue dating, make sure you make that clear to your date! This will save a lot of heart break and make your life much simpler!