Pick Up Artists: Love em or Hate em

If you do not know what a pick up artist is, here is a quick brief about them. Commonly abbreviated with PUA, a pick up artist is an individual who finds and attracts partners for their desired purpose. They have a particular way of getting the other person’s attention and they successfully achieve their purpose by following their systems!

Now, when it comes to the pick up artists, they are not necessarily hateful or appreciated. It is totally dependent from person to person. In fact, the PUA’s even receive mixed opinions form the press and the general public. Now, it is up to you to judge them for yourself! If however, you are negative about them, here is what happened to one of them! You will definitely enjoy reading this one! Pay attention and most definitely do not be like this guy!

Here is the story of Julien Blanc

Julien Blanc is a U.S based pick up artist and a dating coach. He has gone as far as to call himself the, ‘international leader in dating advice’. Now, being in the profession that he has chosen for himself, he brought further limelight on himself in November 2014! He was accused of running social media campaigns that encouraged several dating and relationship habits which was not supported by many people worldwide! Most of his campaigns were looked down as being demeaning to women!

Well, well, he even came on the TV, and refuted the allegations made on him. He stated that what ever was said against him did not have enough evidence to support what he was accused of! But all said and done, people had already made up their opinions and he was not going back with a clean chit. The result was just as shocking as his deed!

Julien Blanc was officially banned from entering several countries. The list includes some major countries like Australia, the United Kingdom and Singapore! No one can know which people liked or even supported Julien Blanc’s campaigns, but we for sure know which people did not support them!

Likewise, here are such tips to ward off the pick up artists if you are not particularly fine with what they have to say

  1. Make your excuses – If a pick up artist approaches you with their unimpressive pick up lines, simply make your excuses and walk off from the scene. Make excuses like you have some work or need to go out. He will definitely get your answer straight off and if he is smart enough, he will back off!

What you can do is do not allow the pick up artist to start a conversation at all. Don’t allow them to start a conversation first and foremost and there will be no need to worry later on. Simply tell them that you are busy and do not have the time to pay attention even for that one minute. If nothing else, tell them that you do not comprehend their speech and therefore cannot help them whatsoever.

  1. Give it back – Be blunt and let him know that you are just not attracted. One of your answers could be to gaze back till the person feels edgy. Now, nothing can be better than giving them a taste of their own medicine. What you can best do is tackle him and articulate your mind out. If not that, try giving him a dose. Next time he speaks, aggravate him the same way he annoyed you. He will for sure learn his message and not mess with you anymore!

PUA: Know Them and Fend Them off

This is an opinion piece written by one of my ‘girl’ friends. Lets see what females think of PUA techniques:

Pick up artists are one of the most annoying creations of god! And they are arrived in the world to stay! Irrespective of your belief that they should not be allowed near a woman, they refuse to go away. Therefore, instead of feeling defeated, you should simply fend them off.

But before sending them off, are you sure you know what defines a pick up artist. Whether yes or no, here is a list of the ways a PUA approaches a woman. Next time you get a similar hint, you will know what to do!

  1. Can I talk to you for a minute’, the opening line

Most often, a pick up artist approaches a woman with an opening line like, ‘Can I speak to you for a moment’ or ‘I have to tell you something’. Well, if you think that person is genuine, then it is another case but if not, he is definitely a pick up artist.

They begin with an opening line like the above and start having a conversation. It just gets impossible to send them off after that. In cases like these, it is advised to ignore the person right from the start. Don’t allow them to start a conversation first and foremost and there will be no need to worry later on. Simply tell them that you are busy and do not have the time to listen even for that one minute. If nothing else, tell them that you do not understand their language and therefore cannot help them whatsoever.

  1. The staring artist

If speaking was not enough already, some pick up artists go as far as staring continuously at a woman. Yes, this is considered impolite but then, they simply do not care.

In situations such as this, you should not ne nervous or feel defeated. Just walk up to that person and tell him to stop staring. Be upfront and let him know that you are just not interested. One of your answers could be to stare back till the person feels uneasy. Now, nothing can be better than giving them a taste of their own medicine.

  1. Negging

Another common technique through which the PUAs approach a woman is by negging. They will simply add a line to make the woman feel low about her. For instance, you might hear something like, ‘Hey, you have nice hair. Are you wearing a wig?’ Things like these can make you or any woman for that matter feel socially low.

Now, for instances like these, you have to come out of the shell and face the PUA. Tell him that you do not care for his compliments or comments. If nothing else, simply walk out of the scene and do not give a damn to anything that is being said. If you will not listen to him, surely, he will be completely discouraged to speak any further! Next time, don’t be the prey to any negging of any kind!

  1. The Kinesthetic

Last but not the least, you have the kinesthetic PUA. This means that while having a conversation, the person will lightly touch you on your arm or your shoulder. Now, if that is acceptable to you, it is another case, if not, then you must not accept it in any case!

What you can best do is confront him and speak your mind out. If not that, try giving him a dose. Next time he speaks, annoy him the same way he annoyed you. He will for sure learn his lesson and not trouble you anymore!

How To Converse With A Woman The First Time

It is an ordinary fact that you run into a new person every now and then in your everyday lives. Now if this person happens to be a woman, many of us are left wondering about how to talk to her the first time on meeting. It will definitely serve no purpose standing frozen on the spot. Instead, here are some quick tips about how to strike up a good impression the first time talking to a woman

Tip 1 – Introduce yourself

Yes, there is a great power in this simple word, ‘Hello’. It makes the whole situation normal and you can pick up a standard conversation from there. Just remember that women are approached often and they have practically heard a lot of long introduction lines. They do not want to hear another one! A simple ‘Hello’ will do the trick for you and she definitely won’t give you that dreaded strange look!

Tip 2 – Make use of the current news

Women often like men who are well informed of the latest happening and current affairs. If you are meeting a woman for the first time and wondering what to talk, you could definitely discuss the current events. Maybe even share a little laugh by discussing the latest celebrity gossip! Who knows, the display of wit could somewhere charm her without you even tying over much!

Tip 3 – Keep asking her opinion

One of the personal favorites of womankind is to state their opinions – loud and clear! And they like men who respect that and take their point of view in all matters. This theory is especially helpful when you are sitting with a new group and women and want to engage their interest. So, nest time you need an opinion, you can safely approach a group of women you seem to like!

You Still Using Pick Up Lines?

Pick up lines were supposed to get women all emotional and fall for you on the spot. Well for the inexperienced out there, it really doesn’t work that way.

Are you still using pick up lines?

The following video makes fun of pick up line

Get pick up lines out of your head from now on.

If you really need to use some kind of script to approach women, then look into canned openers.

They’ll get a woman attention but that’s it. Once you start conversing, you will move along the attraction phase.

I’ll delve into the proper way to approach and attract women soon.