The Positive Outlook

No relationship can work without taking certain steps in the right direction. In fact, to make a relationship work, you have to have the right mindset. As you probably already know, it is not always rainbows and butterflies, there will be hard times which you as a couple will have to face from time to time. Accordingly, when you decide to date or enter into a relationship, gear up to have an optimistic mindset and let go of things that can hamper your relationship. Here is an outlook at a positive mindset that will take your relationship from A to Z!

Don’t act like what you are not

A very common phenomenon observed with most of the first dates is when a person behaves like what he or she is not in order to impress the date. The whole mindset is to impress the partner by showing sides of a personality which is being acted out instead of being the original! Now this is one thing you should never do! A little impressing here and there is totally alright. But putting out a façade of false personality is a strict No! On the positive side, look at a mindset of portraying yourself the way you are. After all, no charade can be held for a long time!

The fact goes that everyone has something special in their personality. What may impress one person will not necessarily impress the other. Therefore, it is best to be oneself and stick to the personality traits of oneself rather than imitate a personality who we consider our better!

Have the right attitude

Dating undeniably goes hand in hand with having the right skill and the right attitude for dating. You cannot date successfully leaving out any of the two. If you have the right attitude, but do not have the skills to charm and impress the date, the right attitude is of no use. On the contrary, if you have the right skills but not the correct attitude, your skills are hardly going to impress your date!

Accordingly, what you need to have is a positive outlook where you are dating for mutual happiness. If you like your date and want to pursue the relation further, there is no point playing mind games and postponing the inevitable. Instead, have a clear mindset and pursue the relationship with a clear intent of carrying it on in the future. It might just be the attraction point in you!

Accept that there will be some adjustments

Another mindset to definitely accept is that there will be possible adjustments in your life once you start dating. This is true for the simple reason that, a new person entering your life is bound to have some impact in your daily routine. Now, you cannot be frustrated and stress out because of small and minor changes in your life.

In fact, learn to embrace them. Understand the fact that if the new person is bringing about a change to your life, so are you bringing about a change to that person’s life. Therefore, if the other person has happily accepted you, so should you! Have this mindset next time and you will definitely see that your charm has gone up by a margin!

Make your partner laugh

Now, this does not mean that you act like a clown and make your partner want to run away! What this mindset basically means is that, in order to have the ice broken down and the awkwardness finished, you need to make your partner laugh. Now, this can be achieved by little fun flirting, or some nice stories of your past. Just a little laugh ride to drown away the tensions of your lives.

If you do not have the talent to make the other person laugh, try developing it. It is not all that difficult. Just believe and undertake your actions with a positive mindset!

Do not expect a transformation

Believe me, the partner you are dating is not Cinderella’s fairy godmother! Do not expect the partner to change you or transform you in any way. Often times this problem is seen when one person feels he or she certain charm and qualities and expects the dating partner to change that for them. Well, your dating partner has other bigger things in life and cannot possibly be your personality tutor! So, do not expect a Cinderella transformation.

Fortunately, it is also true that while you are dating, there will be natural changes in your personality, your looks and other things in life. But that is natural! No body is forcing them on you! Accordingly, go with natural changes and enjoy them. Do not live with the mindset that you should date in order to get a personality change!

Do not play games

The last of the positive mindset in this piece of writing is to avoid playing games at all cost! Now this does not mean that you should not play little harmless mind games. That is totally alright! What you should avoid doing is playing games which might hurt the other person.

Take for example, if you do not like the first date and do not want to continue dating, make sure you make that clear to your date! This will save a lot of heart break and make your life much simpler!

Dating Mindset: You Got It?

You may have a mind to date, just casually or get into a serious relationship. But do you have the right mindset for the same? You need to be in the right frame of mind before you flirt, chat or start seeing some one. You don’t want to appear a complete hero or a complete zero. Somewhere halfway is a good solution. Here is a quick list of pointers for you to know if you have the right mindset for seeing someone!

Having an open mind

Every one is bound to have a past. And that should be absolutely permissible. You do not want to be too rigid to stick to your conventions and not allow the other person to breathe! And especially so, if you have some past skeletons in your own closet! Accordingly, a dating mindset definitely calls for you to have an open mind and embrace a new relationship leaving the past behind. Do not ask you date too many questions about his or her ex. It can get totally annoying for the other person to answer your questions! After all, the past cannot change and you do not want to spoil the future doing the same!

Being a closed person was never appreciated, even long time back!

Another key mindset to develop before dating is to keep yourself open to the other person. This does not mean that you reveal everything about yourselves right from the first few dates. But, you do have to start sharing the realities of your being to the other person if you intend to see them more often in the future. And moreover, if you want to know more about the other person, you have to lead by example! Be open and yet ensure that you have not spoken too much!

Do not loose your personality

This phenomenon occurs quite often. One moment you start seeing a girl or a boy, the other moment you have forgotten about your friends, your daily routine and you are lost in that one person who you have only just met! This majorly takes away ‘you’ from your personality. Where is your individual self now!

Accordingly, before dating, you need to set your mind on the fact that no matter what happens, you will be you! No relation should take away your charm and make you a slave to it! And this can only happen if you set your mind for it!

Don’t give in till you find the perfect one

As fancy as this sounds, it is best of you put this to practice. If you go on one date and feel a lack of compatibility with the person, it is absolutely alright to try another date with some other person. In fact, it is acceptable to do this until you find the right person you want to pursue in the future! You can keep dating but don’t make any false promises you cannot keep up with. Have a clear mindset to find the right person for you!

Keep flirting, keep the fun alive

Last but not the least, if you are dating someone, make sure to flirt and that to, to flirt often. Flirting is fun and you can be easy with compliments. You can have a light humored conversation and keep the excitement alive. This is specially required in the first few dates. You do not want to appear boring and serious. Instead, make the conversation fun and keep the thrill alive by flirting away! And this means healthy flirting!