PUA: Know Them and Fend Them off

This is an opinion piece written by one of my ‘girl’ friends. Lets see what females think of PUA techniques:

Pick up artists are one of the most annoying creations of god! And they are arrived in the world to stay! Irrespective of your belief that they should not be allowed near a woman, they refuse to go away. Therefore, instead of feeling defeated, you should simply fend them off.

But before sending them off, are you sure you know what defines a pick up artist. Whether yes or no, here is a list of the ways a PUA approaches a woman. Next time you get a similar hint, you will know what to do!

  1. Can I talk to you for a minute’, the opening line

Most often, a pick up artist approaches a woman with an opening line like, ‘Can I speak to you for a moment’ or ‘I have to tell you something’. Well, if you think that person is genuine, then it is another case but if not, he is definitely a pick up artist.

They begin with an opening line like the above and start having a conversation. It just gets impossible to send them off after that. In cases like these, it is advised to ignore the person right from the start. Don’t allow them to start a conversation first and foremost and there will be no need to worry later on. Simply tell them that you are busy and do not have the time to listen even for that one minute. If nothing else, tell them that you do not understand their language and therefore cannot help them whatsoever.

  1. The staring artist

If speaking was not enough already, some pick up artists go as far as staring continuously at a woman. Yes, this is considered impolite but then, they simply do not care.

In situations such as this, you should not ne nervous or feel defeated. Just walk up to that person and tell him to stop staring. Be upfront and let him know that you are just not interested. One of your answers could be to stare back till the person feels uneasy. Now, nothing can be better than giving them a taste of their own medicine.

  1. Negging

Another common technique through which the PUAs approach a woman is by negging. They will simply add a line to make the woman feel low about her. For instance, you might hear something like, ‘Hey, you have nice hair. Are you wearing a wig?’ Things like these can make you or any woman for that matter feel socially low.

Now, for instances like these, you have to come out of the shell and face the PUA. Tell him that you do not care for his compliments or comments. If nothing else, simply walk out of the scene and do not give a damn to anything that is being said. If you will not listen to him, surely, he will be completely discouraged to speak any further! Next time, don’t be the prey to any negging of any kind!

  1. The Kinesthetic

Last but not the least, you have the kinesthetic PUA. This means that while having a conversation, the person will lightly touch you on your arm or your shoulder. Now, if that is acceptable to you, it is another case, if not, then you must not accept it in any case!

What you can best do is confront him and speak your mind out. If not that, try giving him a dose. Next time he speaks, annoy him the same way he annoyed you. He will for sure learn his lesson and not trouble you anymore!

For Nature Lovers

Sorry guys, this article is for the ladies:

If you go to see, going to dates in ways of long walks or hikes in the hills, can be absolutely and blissfully relaxing! If this is what attracts you, then you sure are a rambling enthusiast. And there are many more, who will be by your side and support you in your continuous travels. For those interested in a rambling man, have you wondered what it might feel like to date such a man? Well, you will not be kept in the dark any more. Here is what it feels like.

Do not expect a sudden change!

This guy is someone who loves to travel. He can be a business man or in any other profession for that matter. Therefore, if you plan to date a rambling man, be assured that he will still continue his travelling endeavors. Do not expect him to suddenly take a back seat and sit at home. You have to accept the guy as a person who likes outdoors and will spend a lot of his time out there!

He is most definitely a nature lover

Now again, a rambling man loves the outdoors. They love nature and are interested in outside adventures. If such a man is in your mind, make sure you have or at least develop a liking for the outdoors. In fact, do not be surprised if your next date is a walk in the park or even a little hike on the mountains. This is pretty much characteristic of the rambling man!

Do not be surprised if he is mentally absent!

The good thing in a rambling man is that he is a traveler and often goes out of town. The world is extended to him and he likes to explore it as much as he possibly can. Now comes the bad part! Such a man also has a bad quality of being mentally absent in situations! The fact of the matter is that if for a change he is not travelling and is in town, he might just switch off from any conversation and you will be left staring! Make sure you do not allow this for your partner. After all, he ‘must’ listen to what you say!

He might include you in his travel

Another positive! He is a rambler and he will travel. But sometimes, he might also include you in his travel. Doesn’t that sound like fun! Yes, this is a major wow factor of dating a rambling man. You can accompany him on his travels, his adventures and be a part of his life schedule. This can work wonderfully well to take your relation to new levels. You can know his preferences and dislikes and he can know yours. This point alone is a major ‘yes’ in favor of a rambling man!

However, if he does not include you in his travels, do not have your doubts. This may be for genuine reasons like lack of time or for a strict work trip!

Your calls may be left unanswered

The last thing in this list about a rambling man is that he may just leave your call or messages unanswered! Now, you can give him the benefit of doubt for the reason that he may be away on business or may even be in his adventures in exotic locations. Now, definitely answering the phone is not possible in these situations! So, you can safely let him off! However, these guys do have this irritating habit of leaving phones unanswered even when the situation is totally fine!

Dating Mindset: You Got It?

You may have a mind to date, just casually or get into a serious relationship. But do you have the right mindset for the same? You need to be in the right frame of mind before you flirt, chat or start seeing some one. You don’t want to appear a complete hero or a complete zero. Somewhere halfway is a good solution. Here is a quick list of pointers for you to know if you have the right mindset for seeing someone!

Having an open mind

Every one is bound to have a past. And that should be absolutely permissible. You do not want to be too rigid to stick to your conventions and not allow the other person to breathe! And especially so, if you have some past skeletons in your own closet! Accordingly, a dating mindset definitely calls for you to have an open mind and embrace a new relationship leaving the past behind. Do not ask you date too many questions about his or her ex. It can get totally annoying for the other person to answer your questions! After all, the past cannot change and you do not want to spoil the future doing the same!

Being a closed person was never appreciated, even long time back!

Another key mindset to develop before dating is to keep yourself open to the other person. This does not mean that you reveal everything about yourselves right from the first few dates. But, you do have to start sharing the realities of your being to the other person if you intend to see them more often in the future. And moreover, if you want to know more about the other person, you have to lead by example! Be open and yet ensure that you have not spoken too much!

Do not loose your personality

This phenomenon occurs quite often. One moment you start seeing a girl or a boy, the other moment you have forgotten about your friends, your daily routine and you are lost in that one person who you have only just met! This majorly takes away ‘you’ from your personality. Where is your individual self now!

Accordingly, before dating, you need to set your mind on the fact that no matter what happens, you will be you! No relation should take away your charm and make you a slave to it! And this can only happen if you set your mind for it!

Don’t give in till you find the perfect one

As fancy as this sounds, it is best of you put this to practice. If you go on one date and feel a lack of compatibility with the person, it is absolutely alright to try another date with some other person. In fact, it is acceptable to do this until you find the right person you want to pursue in the future! You can keep dating but don’t make any false promises you cannot keep up with. Have a clear mindset to find the right person for you!

Keep flirting, keep the fun alive

Last but not the least, if you are dating someone, make sure to flirt and that to, to flirt often. Flirting is fun and you can be easy with compliments. You can have a light humored conversation and keep the excitement alive. This is specially required in the first few dates. You do not want to appear boring and serious. Instead, make the conversation fun and keep the thrill alive by flirting away! And this means healthy flirting!

An Insight into a Woman’s Mind

How often have you heard this common time cliché that it is near impossible to understand a woman! Well, this may not apply at all if you can get a little insight in to a woman’s complex mind. And magically, you will know the answer to the 3 W’s for that amazing lady who has been residing in your mind. You will know the answer to – What is she like, what does she like and what is the right way to charm her away!

Well, one technique that will truly give you an insight about a woman is the Vin DiCarlo Pandoras Box system. Pursuing the system, you can easily observe a woman and determine which of the categories of women she falls in. Once you have your category in place, you will know how to charm her away! The system also talks about the desires of each category of women described and the ways through which you can charm her!

Does some types of women scare the hell out of you?

The process starts with answering to 3 questions to help you identify the personality of the woman. The questions stated in the Vin DiCarlo Pandoras Box system are

  1. Her ‘time line’ whereby you can know what strategy she applies to choose her Mr. Right
  2. Her ‘sex line’ whereby you can know what interests she has in terms of physical intimacy
  3. Her ‘relationship line’ whereby you will know what characteristic traits she wants in her M. Right.

Once you have the answer to these questions, you can tell her personality type! This procedure may sound complicated, but do not worry, it is not that difficult after all! Now that you have answered the questions and determined her personality type, you can move to the next step for understanding her personality!

Vin DiCarlo Pandoras Box system says that there are 8 kinds or 8 categories of women we can find in the world today. Each type has a separate manner in which she behaves and therefore, there has to be a difference in the way you make your approach towards her. After all, it never hurts to know how your desired lady will be charmed. Without wasting much time, let us get into the 8 kinds of women

  1. The Social Butterfly

As the name says, these are butterflies and therefore, can be extremely difficult to charm away! Yes, she is beautiful and she knows it! She will not hesitate to flirt a little here and there and set the rocking mood of the party! However, to be able ti catch her for yourself, you have to have that X factor in you!

Well, she may be energetic and all that but you ought to know what you are doing if you want to impress her! If you want to date this category of women, you have to pep up and try a little extra to stand out for her!

  1. The Hopeful Romantic

If you like being, ‘The Knight in Shining Armour’, this category of women is your type! A hopeful romantic girl lives in her fantasies and wants to see her prince charming in the boy she is dating. But do not worry, if you want to charm her, you do not necessarily have to be a paramour straight from some fancy book in literature, you only have to bring out the characteristics in yourselves that she likes. And this conquest will be yours!

  1. The Playette

You will never know the depth of this category of woman unless you break through the iceberg like exterior! These ladies are moderate and calm but they have a whole lot more to say when you break through their outer appearance and see other aspects of their personality.

Protective initially, she can turn into an exciting prospect once you win her heart over! Remember, before anything, you have to break through the ice like exterior!

  1. The Cinderella

A Cinderella is a woman type you can’t take for granted. She looks at a long term relationship when she thinks of dating. Well, if you have anything else in mind, try considering once again!

  1. The Private Dancer

She is a one exciting paradox of existence. There is a mystery surrounding her being! There is a soft and innocent look on the exterior. On the other hand, there is a passionate personality hidden in her inner being!

If you plan to pursue a Private Dancer, you can be assured that she will give a lot of the relationship. However, giving does not come without taking back. You have to be prepared to put some efforts as well!

  1. The Modern Woman

This is one category of women who is so 21st century. She is smart, sexy and carrier oriented. She has an open mind and does not have too many guards about herself. If you like this category of no nonsense women, make sure that you match up to her expectations!

Silly romantic gifts will not impress her! You have to think like a modern man who can charm away the modern woman!

  1. The Connoisseur

Like the name of this category says, she is a woman type she is choosy about the person she goes on a date with. She is cautious and will wait for the Mr. Right to come her way. Therefore, you cannot win her with some foolish notions of love, because she chooses practically!

One thing good about these kind of women is that they are practical and therefore appreciate the realistic approach of guys. You will not have to cook up romantic stories to woo her. Take sensible steps instead!

  1. The Seductress

The seductress woman is strong and not easily intimidated. She is not scared of what the world will say. This is one attractive quality in them. She likes intimacies and is very confident in life. Accordingly, you have to have a strong personality yourself in order to woo the Seductress.

8 Tips to Look Good

Looking good can never hurt. It is always nice to have a good looking partner by your side. Now, to complement that partner, you do not need to always have a well toned killer body to look good. Small efforts to look nice can make a whole lot of a difference to the appearance of a person. Here are those tips that can work well to both boost your looks and your confidence levels.

But before we start, lets have some satire haha:

Be in line with the current trends

Being with the current trend is a major add on to your good looks. If you wear the latest styles or have the latest hairstyle, you will be sure to be noticed in a large crowd. Even if you do not like the current trend and feel it does not suit you, you can always take a hint from the current happenings and work your style around the current trend. This is for the simple reason that trends should not force you to change yourself. They should just be a guideline to help you look better by dressing according to the popular demands of the day!

Understand yourself – The hair

Hair can be one factor that can define the look of a person. It is essential to have a hair style that complements yourself. If the rage is long hair, does not mean you need to have that hair style. You need to understand what suits you and need to have a hairstyle that can work well in you.

Try and experiment. Go different. Try the colours, different styles, just ask an expert who are more than willing to guide you with the right hair. For instance, if you have a round face, try going for a layer cut rather than going short. Oval faces can try blunt cuts. For the men, maintain a nice sleek hairstyle which you can conveniently model according to the situation. Neat and well cut hair can be attractive in more ways than you can even take a guess!

If you know your best feature – Highlight it

Every one has at least one feature in them that makes them more confident of themselves. Therefore, you should not let that go unnoticed. If you have a god smile, smile more often. If you have good eyes, do something to highlight that. In essence, you need to make sure that the best feature in you is wide and clear to every one. A few compliments from your loved ones are always nice to hear here and there!

Colours can have their own say

The colour code you wear can have a huge difference to your appearance. Darker colours help a person to look slimmer and if you are already on the thin side, you can look even slimmer if that is in your mind.

Also, colours play an important role since they define an occasion. An evening party mostly calls for a dark subtle colour code. You cannot wear a beachy yellow to an evening party. Imagine how funny would that look! Accordingly, it is central to wear the right colours to the occasion if you do not want to feel out of place!

Wear to your fitting

You may want to look good for a date you are going to, but how about you wear loose ill fitting clothes? What impression would that put? Accordingly, you do not need to have the best of bodies to dress well and look good. All you need to do is wear good fitting clothes.

Ill-fitting clothes show cases a sense that you are not interested or for that matter not bothered to make efforts to dress well. Just take a little step next time and wear something that goes well with your body type. You will sure turn some heads your way!

Do not use excessive make up

Make up for sure helps. It is required to correct the minor imprecations we have and can add oodles of confidence to a person. However, excessive make up is a strict No No. You do not want to have your partner hear comments about your excessive makeup. It is a major turn off. Accordingly, to look good, you may want to put make up, but ensure that you do not over do it. Instead of looking good, you would look quite annoying to the onlooker!

Take care of yourself

Looking good is not just about how you look from outside. You need to also take care and maintain your personal hygiene. Every one likes a partner who takes efforts to maintain personal care. Likewise, be healthy and you will shine out! Complement your outer efforts but with the internal ones. And wait and see the results! Nothing can stop you from being content!

Be a positive person

Last but not the least, yes, looking good is important. But that is not the be all and end all. You need to have a good and clean mindset for being a positive person. And being positive has its own advantages! Every one likes a good and positive person who makes the world an easier place to live in. Having said that, if you feel you are looking good at an instance, do not spoil it by being rude or negative. Positivity and good looks, hand in hand, is a sure shot winner!

Dating Rules – The Modern Look At It

Dating behavior has seen a definite change over the years. And you ‘must’ realize that so have the dating rules. It is no longer a necessary order that the man takes the lead. This is the 21st century and women are equal to men in all ways! The digital era has brought about a noticeable change and it is absolutely ‘okay’ to ask for a date on Facebook. In fact, this is a common phenomenon with the younger singles. The older ones are still hesitant about the digital media, but never mind that!

Here is a list of a few dating habits that every single person must definitely know about

1. Who said only he pays

Well, here is a win win situation for the boys! It is no longer necessary that the guy has to always pay the bill. If you believe the recent trend, girls do not really mind paying the bill. Well, well, now would that not encourage more of you boys to go on dates! Next time, on a first date, if she reaches out for her purse, do not over react! Work a mid way out! It is okay to let her pay.

2. Try being honest this time

You know within the first few minutes itself if you are or are not interested in the date. Don’t like the date, what is the point of extending it and creating a long list of misunderstandings! As a modern dating rule, you can politely inform your date that you are not interested in carrying the dating on for the second time. Remember to be polite and maintain your manners. You never know when you might bump into your date again in the future!

3. Finish off what you started

It is perfectly normal that your date does not go like you expected it to. You might not even like the person any more. However, remember this dating rule that no matter whether you like the date or not, finish off what you started. As a general rule, it is considered polite to go through with the date and finish off what you yourself began. This was always a mandate before and so it is a mandate now! You need to have that respect for your date. Do not leave mid way or start being rude. Finish off the date on a good note and make sure you come home with some happy memories in the box!

4. No More Waiting or No More the Wait Games

There was always a waiting game played after the first date. The girl or the guy would wait for 3-4 days before declaring their interest in each other. Fortunately, the modern dating rule is against that! Gone are the days of playing waiting games, the singles of today are rather quick to declare their interest in the dating partner. And don’t wait too long to confess your interest, he or she might just have taken off on another date by then!

5. There are no limitations what so ever!

Compatibility does not depend on race, religion or geography anymore. Although, these factors can contribute to the attractiveness of a person to another in general, they are not the prime factors in deciding a date. Compatibility truly does not depend on whether two people are from the same continent. If you like a person, approach them no matter what culture or religion they belong to.

6. If you are charming, you are a winner

Charm is what is in demand! You may be rich, handsome or even a body builder. But if you fail in the charm department, you are pretty not going to impress your date. Every partner likes a graceful date who has nice qualities. But if you cannot charm your date, what use are the other qualities! Next time before seeing a person, you can try being little sensitive to them. Thank you and sorry texts always work. A little surprise can never go wrong. Just try a few efforts to be charming and you will see the positive results yourself.

7. Your past is no longer your own

Well, if you are socially active and have a vibrant presence online, you must know that your date will also be having a look at that! That is nothing to worry because what is gone is in the past. Yet, don’t be surprised if your partner is well aware of your previous doings. In fact, the modern dating rules say that learn to embrace these things and look beyond these petty issues. If you like a person, like them with their past, present and future!

8. If you like the person, make sure to say that

As a last rule modern rule for dating, it is important to state your liking to your partner. It works no good to play waiting games or act coy. In fact, this could result in your partner loosing their interest in you. The simple fact is that no one has the time in the world to keep waiting for a positive answer. They want to get to know you as soon as possible and that can only happen if you show interest back. Playing waiting games can totally turn their mood off and you may be left wondering why you did that! Be honest and see the magical results!

Top 8 Dating Rules

If you go to see really, there are no fixed dating rules. Something may work for some one and another thing for another one! So, what does one really do?

Well, here is something you can be hopeful with. Listed here is a list of top 8 dating rules. And don’t worry; a lot of research has gone into this before coming up with the list. So, stay attentive and hurry with your reading!

8.  Know your modes of communication

There is no lack of ways through which you can be asked out for a date. Now a day, no one is going to wait to meet you in person and ask you out. A quick text on the mobile or a simple question on Facebook can do the trick! So, if you are not familiar with the latest modes of communication, you better start to learn them. Dating rule no. 8 says that you ‘must’ know the modern techniques to communicate with each other. If not, you are missing out on a great opportunity.

7.  Be prepared if you display everything online

There are no barriers when it comes to the internet today. Your date can easily access anything you have put up on the world wide net. Be it the photos of your previous date or a wild party you recently attended, he or she would have access to that information if it is in your profile online. Accordingly, dating rule no. 7 says that you have to be ready to face questions about your past. This is simply because your past is no longer hidden from the world!

6.  Marriage is not the ultimate goal

The ultimate goal for old school dating was to enter the institution of marriage. Well, in the modern world, it is much more flexible. Singles are willing to date and see how the relationship develops over time. There is no rush to marry the partner. Live ins and casual dating are much more acceptable and favored. Before entering into a long term commitment straight away, dating couples are more interested to make the relationship work first. Likewise, dating rule no. 6 says that do not keep marriage the first thing in mind! You might be left disappointed!

5.  Exclusivity – Long gone

Dating rule no. 5 says that gone are the days when you were the only person your date would be taking out. If you have been seeing a person for a while and you are only dating casually, do not expect that your date would not be taking someone else out in that time. The unsaid commitment which was a priority in the past years is no longer the case now. Fortunately, this rule is not applicable to every dating. Having said that, be ready to be one of the many until you actually give a serious thought to commitment.

4.  Being Coy will get you nowhere

It is a fact that everyone is busy in their lives. There is work, there are personal issues and the list just never ends. So, if you are planning to act coy and delay the answer to the question forever, be prepared to miss out on the date! No one has the time to keep waiting endlessly for a positive answer. They might as well be done with it and move on ahead. Remember, if you are in fact interested to know the person who asked you out, play a little game but do not extend it forever. Dating rule no. 4 says that being coy is good, but being coy too long is just not going to work!

3.  Go beyond the social conditions

It was a long time back that the main consideration behind selecting a date was religion or geography. It matters no more whether a person is from Europe and the other from America. In fact, the religious and cultural beliefs can matter to a small extent before selecting a partner but in the larger picture, it is no way the fundamental reason being the compatibility. Dating rule no. 3 says that social conditions are a long dead. Go beyond the conventions and live free!

2.  Let the girl pay if she wants to

Good news for the men! There was a time when women were not supposed to work. There is a time now where women are as successful as men. This says that initially boys were supposed to put in the entire bill after a date. However, times have changed now and so has this rule. Women do not really mind paying the bill. Next time, you take someone out on a date, reach a mid way situation. Dating rule no. 2 says that many women today consider themselves equal to men and don’t mind paying for what they have eaten!

1.  Charm her away!

The most important rule of all, dating rule no. 1 – Be charming. There are no two ways about this. You may be handsome and rich and all, but if your charm does not get across, there is no use of those qualities. As the first rule of dating, you need to be sensitive to your date and win her heart. Few things you could do are give her small surprises, behave with chivalry and send thoughtful messages when required. This rule is primary and not to be messed with!

How To Converse With A Woman The First Time

It is an ordinary fact that you run into a new person every now and then in your everyday lives. Now if this person happens to be a woman, many of us are left wondering about how to talk to her the first time on meeting. It will definitely serve no purpose standing frozen on the spot. Instead, here are some quick tips about how to strike up a good impression the first time talking to a woman

Tip 1 – Introduce yourself

Yes, there is a great power in this simple word, ‘Hello’. It makes the whole situation normal and you can pick up a standard conversation from there. Just remember that women are approached often and they have practically heard a lot of long introduction lines. They do not want to hear another one! A simple ‘Hello’ will do the trick for you and she definitely won’t give you that dreaded strange look!

Tip 2 – Make use of the current news

Women often like men who are well informed of the latest happening and current affairs. If you are meeting a woman for the first time and wondering what to talk, you could definitely discuss the current events. Maybe even share a little laugh by discussing the latest celebrity gossip! Who knows, the display of wit could somewhere charm her without you even tying over much!

Tip 3 – Keep asking her opinion

One of the personal favorites of womankind is to state their opinions – loud and clear! And they like men who respect that and take their point of view in all matters. This theory is especially helpful when you are sitting with a new group and women and want to engage their interest. So, nest time you need an opinion, you can safely approach a group of women you seem to like!