Looking Good: The Good and The Bad

If you have caught yourselves a hottie, well, it is your good luck. A good-looking partner is a quality almost every one somewhere expects for them. It is always nice to walk hand in hand with them and you will see that smile on your face when your partner is being admired! Yet, if you want a good-looking partner, can your ego deal with it? As nice as it sounds, looking good does not only have its pros. Your ego has to survive the cons. Read ahead if you would like to know the good and the bad of having a looking good partner.

The Good Side First

He or she can turn heads

If your partner is a looker, they are definitely bound to turn some heads! Now this is a terrific ego boost when everyone in the crowd wants to have a look at your partner! You can get plenty of compliments just for dating them. Moreover, your friends are sure to love them. And they will have no filter for their compliments. You will get to hear loads and loads of them! This sure can make your day better and better!

With good looks, the world is never better if your partner even has a suave dressing sense. These two deadly combinations will make you more in love day by day! And it is quite nice to look good for the person you are in a relation with.

The world is easy to a good looking person

The world is wonderful to a good looking person. This is another major pro of looking good! It is easier for them to get things done and people gladly do those things for them. If your partner looks good, observe for yourselves and see next time, people at restaurants, clubs, just anywhere, will be gladder then ever to assist them.

Likewise, the possible perks which one can enjoy seem limitless! Your partner will be some one who is confident and does not hesitate to face the world. For this one point, it is extremely important to look good as it adds a whole lot of confidence to a person.

You turn to improve yourselves

When you know your partner is good looking or takes efforts to look good and dress well, some where you want to make the same efforts yourself. Now this is a good thing since you yourself will be taking better care. Maybe you will dress better if you go out to a party next time, or you might be smiling more often so that every one can have a look at your lovely smile. Any small effort will work well to help you improve in your presentation. This one point is a major advantage of dating a good-looking partner.

The Bad Goes next

Looking good never hurts the person who is so, but what about their partner? If you are dating a good looking person, let us see if your ego can take that toll

He or she is good looking for everyone

Agreed that the person you are dating is a looker! Agreed that your friends and family think so too! But have you considered the point that so does every one else in the world think so! Now, this can get really ugly if you have random people coming and complimenting you for the same. It only makes matters worse and you may behave in a manner you never thought you would!

But it is the simple reality that if your partner can turn heads to them, people might also approach them! Here is when you have to prepare yourself to deal with this bad for dating a looker. Have trust in the person and allow them to lead their lives.

Jealously, insecurity, all are at the top

The major bad of dating a good looker is that your jealousy can be aroused any time! Your partner is bound to get noticed whenever he or she heads out. In fact, they are bound to get noticed even if they head out with you! After all, no one can stop prying eyes.

It is fantastic if your partner is admired by a friends or a close relative, the situation changes however when that appreciation comes from a total stranger! Now, you have to make sure that you are not caught up in this game of sparking jealousies. You do not want to loose your personality by being an insecure person. If you are dating a good-looking person, learn to appreciate the fact that the world will notice them and people will approach them every now and then!

In conclusion, there are many pros of dating an attractive person. But the good looks are not the only thing that matters. If there are the good, you also have the bad which sometimes takes away from your personality! Although it is always nice to have a hottie by your side, you should also appreciate the other qualities in a person. Being funny, being intelligent, or having various other skills does not come easy! If you are born with looks, you work hard to attain the other qualities. They should be given equal importance and you will see the positive result in your relation of you value your partner with or without good looks!

Who Exactly is a Rambler

Women love men who are adventurous. So what has this got to do with rambling?

Rambling is fun, and rambling is most certainly adventurous. A rambling personality is some one who loves taking walks and hikes for their pleasure. How lovely and peaceful that sounds! Should an individual leave an opportunity to date a rambling individual? Well, the answer is a No, if you are a fan of the outdoors! Want to know more about the ramblers? Simply read ahead to know whether these personalities are just the right persons for yours!

  1. Yes, if you are a keen walker

Rambling individuals are people who love being outside. They like long walks and like the feel of fresh air, away from the hustle bustle of their busy daily lives. If you see yourself as an individual who also shares a liking to this activity, you can indeed think about dating a rambling personality. After all, it is a nice feeling to walk hand in hand with some one like you, looking at the beautiful world at your own leisure. It cannot hurt to leave the man made wonders of the city and spend a little time amidst god’s natural creations!

  1. Yes, if you are not too much of a fan of the clubbing scene

As already obvious, a rambling individual would rather take a hike up the hills than spend an evening in the club! Likewise, if your interest runs in being amidst nature rather than the loud sound of the clubs, it is time you reconsider and consider a rambling individual for your next date! If nothing else, a try could never hurt. And if you guys click, you will be spending the rest of your times doing the things which you have always wanted for yourselves!

  1. Yes, if you like travel

A rambling individual also likes to travel, and travel a lot. He or she may or may not include you in their travels. Accordingly, if you plan to date a rambling individual, you have to make peace with this fact that your partner will be traveling a lot.

Now, the package comes with things like he or she may not pick up your phones when they are traveling. See and judge for yourselves. If there are positives in one personality, there will be a few negative points. Accordingly, if you can make peace with this situation, you can very well date a rambling individual!

Having said and done, rambling individuals are not very commonly seen. In fact, in your daily lives, you might not come across one at all! Now, if you are really intrigued with a rambling person and want to find one for yourself, it is fairly easy to find one. You just need to talk the help of technology!

Whether you are a walker, a hiker, a rambler, and looking for another one like you, you can turn to the internet sites which are meant for the ramblers. Through these sites, you can find people who are more interested in exploring the environment rather than spending an evening in the pubs! There are many ‘walking club’ websites where by you can find your walking mates online. All you need to do is find a website which is dedicated to this and register yourself!

Remember, it is indeed amazing to walk hand in hand amidst nature. And in today’s world, it is extremely difficult to find a person who is truly appreciative of this creation of God. Therefore, do not hesitate to approach a rambling individual whether face to face or through online sites. After all, you might find just the Mr. or Ms. Right for you!

PUA: Know Them and Fend Them off

This is an opinion piece written by one of my ‘girl’ friends. Lets see what females think of PUA techniques:

Pick up artists are one of the most annoying creations of god! And they are arrived in the world to stay! Irrespective of your belief that they should not be allowed near a woman, they refuse to go away. Therefore, instead of feeling defeated, you should simply fend them off.

But before sending them off, are you sure you know what defines a pick up artist. Whether yes or no, here is a list of the ways a PUA approaches a woman. Next time you get a similar hint, you will know what to do!

  1. Can I talk to you for a minute’, the opening line

Most often, a pick up artist approaches a woman with an opening line like, ‘Can I speak to you for a moment’ or ‘I have to tell you something’. Well, if you think that person is genuine, then it is another case but if not, he is definitely a pick up artist.

They begin with an opening line like the above and start having a conversation. It just gets impossible to send them off after that. In cases like these, it is advised to ignore the person right from the start. Don’t allow them to start a conversation first and foremost and there will be no need to worry later on. Simply tell them that you are busy and do not have the time to listen even for that one minute. If nothing else, tell them that you do not understand their language and therefore cannot help them whatsoever.

  1. The staring artist

If speaking was not enough already, some pick up artists go as far as staring continuously at a woman. Yes, this is considered impolite but then, they simply do not care.

In situations such as this, you should not ne nervous or feel defeated. Just walk up to that person and tell him to stop staring. Be upfront and let him know that you are just not interested. One of your answers could be to stare back till the person feels uneasy. Now, nothing can be better than giving them a taste of their own medicine.

  1. Negging

Another common technique through which the PUAs approach a woman is by negging. They will simply add a line to make the woman feel low about her. For instance, you might hear something like, ‘Hey, you have nice hair. Are you wearing a wig?’ Things like these can make you or any woman for that matter feel socially low.

Now, for instances like these, you have to come out of the shell and face the PUA. Tell him that you do not care for his compliments or comments. If nothing else, simply walk out of the scene and do not give a damn to anything that is being said. If you will not listen to him, surely, he will be completely discouraged to speak any further! Next time, don’t be the prey to any negging of any kind!

  1. The Kinesthetic

Last but not the least, you have the kinesthetic PUA. This means that while having a conversation, the person will lightly touch you on your arm or your shoulder. Now, if that is acceptable to you, it is another case, if not, then you must not accept it in any case!

What you can best do is confront him and speak your mind out. If not that, try giving him a dose. Next time he speaks, annoy him the same way he annoyed you. He will for sure learn his lesson and not trouble you anymore!

For Nature Lovers

Sorry guys, this article is for the ladies:

If you go to see, going to dates in ways of long walks or hikes in the hills, can be absolutely and blissfully relaxing! If this is what attracts you, then you sure are a rambling enthusiast. And there are many more, who will be by your side and support you in your continuous travels. For those interested in a rambling man, have you wondered what it might feel like to date such a man? Well, you will not be kept in the dark any more. Here is what it feels like.

Do not expect a sudden change!

This guy is someone who loves to travel. He can be a business man or in any other profession for that matter. Therefore, if you plan to date a rambling man, be assured that he will still continue his travelling endeavors. Do not expect him to suddenly take a back seat and sit at home. You have to accept the guy as a person who likes outdoors and will spend a lot of his time out there!

He is most definitely a nature lover

Now again, a rambling man loves the outdoors. They love nature and are interested in outside adventures. If such a man is in your mind, make sure you have or at least develop a liking for the outdoors. In fact, do not be surprised if your next date is a walk in the park or even a little hike on the mountains. This is pretty much characteristic of the rambling man!

Do not be surprised if he is mentally absent!

The good thing in a rambling man is that he is a traveler and often goes out of town. The world is extended to him and he likes to explore it as much as he possibly can. Now comes the bad part! Such a man also has a bad quality of being mentally absent in situations! The fact of the matter is that if for a change he is not travelling and is in town, he might just switch off from any conversation and you will be left staring! Make sure you do not allow this for your partner. After all, he ‘must’ listen to what you say!

He might include you in his travel

Another positive! He is a rambler and he will travel. But sometimes, he might also include you in his travel. Doesn’t that sound like fun! Yes, this is a major wow factor of dating a rambling man. You can accompany him on his travels, his adventures and be a part of his life schedule. This can work wonderfully well to take your relation to new levels. You can know his preferences and dislikes and he can know yours. This point alone is a major ‘yes’ in favor of a rambling man!

However, if he does not include you in his travels, do not have your doubts. This may be for genuine reasons like lack of time or for a strict work trip!

Your calls may be left unanswered

The last thing in this list about a rambling man is that he may just leave your call or messages unanswered! Now, you can give him the benefit of doubt for the reason that he may be away on business or may even be in his adventures in exotic locations. Now, definitely answering the phone is not possible in these situations! So, you can safely let him off! However, these guys do have this irritating habit of leaving phones unanswered even when the situation is totally fine!

Dating Mindset: You Got It?

You may have a mind to date, just casually or get into a serious relationship. But do you have the right mindset for the same? You need to be in the right frame of mind before you flirt, chat or start seeing some one. You don’t want to appear a complete hero or a complete zero. Somewhere halfway is a good solution. Here is a quick list of pointers for you to know if you have the right mindset for seeing someone!

Having an open mind

Every one is bound to have a past. And that should be absolutely permissible. You do not want to be too rigid to stick to your conventions and not allow the other person to breathe! And especially so, if you have some past skeletons in your own closet! Accordingly, a dating mindset definitely calls for you to have an open mind and embrace a new relationship leaving the past behind. Do not ask you date too many questions about his or her ex. It can get totally annoying for the other person to answer your questions! After all, the past cannot change and you do not want to spoil the future doing the same!

Being a closed person was never appreciated, even long time back!

Another key mindset to develop before dating is to keep yourself open to the other person. This does not mean that you reveal everything about yourselves right from the first few dates. But, you do have to start sharing the realities of your being to the other person if you intend to see them more often in the future. And moreover, if you want to know more about the other person, you have to lead by example! Be open and yet ensure that you have not spoken too much!

Do not loose your personality

This phenomenon occurs quite often. One moment you start seeing a girl or a boy, the other moment you have forgotten about your friends, your daily routine and you are lost in that one person who you have only just met! This majorly takes away ‘you’ from your personality. Where is your individual self now!

Accordingly, before dating, you need to set your mind on the fact that no matter what happens, you will be you! No relation should take away your charm and make you a slave to it! And this can only happen if you set your mind for it!

Don’t give in till you find the perfect one

As fancy as this sounds, it is best of you put this to practice. If you go on one date and feel a lack of compatibility with the person, it is absolutely alright to try another date with some other person. In fact, it is acceptable to do this until you find the right person you want to pursue in the future! You can keep dating but don’t make any false promises you cannot keep up with. Have a clear mindset to find the right person for you!

Keep flirting, keep the fun alive

Last but not the least, if you are dating someone, make sure to flirt and that to, to flirt often. Flirting is fun and you can be easy with compliments. You can have a light humored conversation and keep the excitement alive. This is specially required in the first few dates. You do not want to appear boring and serious. Instead, make the conversation fun and keep the thrill alive by flirting away! And this means healthy flirting!

An Insight into a Woman’s Mind

How often have you heard this common time cliché that it is near impossible to understand a woman! Well, this may not apply at all if you can get a little insight in to a woman’s complex mind. And magically, you will know the answer to the 3 W’s for that amazing lady who has been residing in your mind. You will know the answer to – What is she like, what does she like and what is the right way to charm her away!

Well, one technique that will truly give you an insight about a woman is the Vin DiCarlo Pandoras Box system. Pursuing the system, you can easily observe a woman and determine which of the categories of women she falls in. Once you have your category in place, you will know how to charm her away! The system also talks about the desires of each category of women described and the ways through which you can charm her!

Does some types of women scare the hell out of you?

The process starts with answering to 3 questions to help you identify the personality of the woman. The questions stated in the Vin DiCarlo Pandoras Box system are

  1. Her ‘time line’ whereby you can know what strategy she applies to choose her Mr. Right
  2. Her ‘sex line’ whereby you can know what interests she has in terms of physical intimacy
  3. Her ‘relationship line’ whereby you will know what characteristic traits she wants in her M. Right.

Once you have the answer to these questions, you can tell her personality type! This procedure may sound complicated, but do not worry, it is not that difficult after all! Now that you have answered the questions and determined her personality type, you can move to the next step for understanding her personality!

Vin DiCarlo Pandoras Box system says that there are 8 kinds or 8 categories of women we can find in the world today. Each type has a separate manner in which she behaves and therefore, there has to be a difference in the way you make your approach towards her. After all, it never hurts to know how your desired lady will be charmed. Without wasting much time, let us get into the 8 kinds of women

  1. The Social Butterfly

As the name says, these are butterflies and therefore, can be extremely difficult to charm away! Yes, she is beautiful and she knows it! She will not hesitate to flirt a little here and there and set the rocking mood of the party! However, to be able ti catch her for yourself, you have to have that X factor in you!

Well, she may be energetic and all that but you ought to know what you are doing if you want to impress her! If you want to date this category of women, you have to pep up and try a little extra to stand out for her!

  1. The Hopeful Romantic

If you like being, ‘The Knight in Shining Armour’, this category of women is your type! A hopeful romantic girl lives in her fantasies and wants to see her prince charming in the boy she is dating. But do not worry, if you want to charm her, you do not necessarily have to be a paramour straight from some fancy book in literature, you only have to bring out the characteristics in yourselves that she likes. And this conquest will be yours!

  1. The Playette

You will never know the depth of this category of woman unless you break through the iceberg like exterior! These ladies are moderate and calm but they have a whole lot more to say when you break through their outer appearance and see other aspects of their personality.

Protective initially, she can turn into an exciting prospect once you win her heart over! Remember, before anything, you have to break through the ice like exterior!

  1. The Cinderella

A Cinderella is a woman type you can’t take for granted. She looks at a long term relationship when she thinks of dating. Well, if you have anything else in mind, try considering once again!

  1. The Private Dancer

She is a one exciting paradox of existence. There is a mystery surrounding her being! There is a soft and innocent look on the exterior. On the other hand, there is a passionate personality hidden in her inner being!

If you plan to pursue a Private Dancer, you can be assured that she will give a lot of the relationship. However, giving does not come without taking back. You have to be prepared to put some efforts as well!

  1. The Modern Woman

This is one category of women who is so 21st century. She is smart, sexy and carrier oriented. She has an open mind and does not have too many guards about herself. If you like this category of no nonsense women, make sure that you match up to her expectations!

Silly romantic gifts will not impress her! You have to think like a modern man who can charm away the modern woman!

  1. The Connoisseur

Like the name of this category says, she is a woman type she is choosy about the person she goes on a date with. She is cautious and will wait for the Mr. Right to come her way. Therefore, you cannot win her with some foolish notions of love, because she chooses practically!

One thing good about these kind of women is that they are practical and therefore appreciate the realistic approach of guys. You will not have to cook up romantic stories to woo her. Take sensible steps instead!

  1. The Seductress

The seductress woman is strong and not easily intimidated. She is not scared of what the world will say. This is one attractive quality in them. She likes intimacies and is very confident in life. Accordingly, you have to have a strong personality yourself in order to woo the Seductress.

8 Tips to Look Good

Looking good can never hurt. It is always nice to have a good looking partner by your side. Now, to complement that partner, you do not need to always have a well toned killer body to look good. Small efforts to look nice can make a whole lot of a difference to the appearance of a person. Here are those tips that can work well to both boost your looks and your confidence levels.

But before we start, lets have some satire haha:

Be in line with the current trends

Being with the current trend is a major add on to your good looks. If you wear the latest styles or have the latest hairstyle, you will be sure to be noticed in a large crowd. Even if you do not like the current trend and feel it does not suit you, you can always take a hint from the current happenings and work your style around the current trend. This is for the simple reason that trends should not force you to change yourself. They should just be a guideline to help you look better by dressing according to the popular demands of the day!

Understand yourself – The hair

Hair can be one factor that can define the look of a person. It is essential to have a hair style that complements yourself. If the rage is long hair, does not mean you need to have that hair style. You need to understand what suits you and need to have a hairstyle that can work well in you.

Try and experiment. Go different. Try the colours, different styles, just ask an expert who are more than willing to guide you with the right hair. For instance, if you have a round face, try going for a layer cut rather than going short. Oval faces can try blunt cuts. For the men, maintain a nice sleek hairstyle which you can conveniently model according to the situation. Neat and well cut hair can be attractive in more ways than you can even take a guess!

If you know your best feature – Highlight it

Every one has at least one feature in them that makes them more confident of themselves. Therefore, you should not let that go unnoticed. If you have a god smile, smile more often. If you have good eyes, do something to highlight that. In essence, you need to make sure that the best feature in you is wide and clear to every one. A few compliments from your loved ones are always nice to hear here and there!

Colours can have their own say

The colour code you wear can have a huge difference to your appearance. Darker colours help a person to look slimmer and if you are already on the thin side, you can look even slimmer if that is in your mind.

Also, colours play an important role since they define an occasion. An evening party mostly calls for a dark subtle colour code. You cannot wear a beachy yellow to an evening party. Imagine how funny would that look! Accordingly, it is central to wear the right colours to the occasion if you do not want to feel out of place!

Wear to your fitting

You may want to look good for a date you are going to, but how about you wear loose ill fitting clothes? What impression would that put? Accordingly, you do not need to have the best of bodies to dress well and look good. All you need to do is wear good fitting clothes.

Ill-fitting clothes show cases a sense that you are not interested or for that matter not bothered to make efforts to dress well. Just take a little step next time and wear something that goes well with your body type. You will sure turn some heads your way!

Do not use excessive make up

Make up for sure helps. It is required to correct the minor imprecations we have and can add oodles of confidence to a person. However, excessive make up is a strict No No. You do not want to have your partner hear comments about your excessive makeup. It is a major turn off. Accordingly, to look good, you may want to put make up, but ensure that you do not over do it. Instead of looking good, you would look quite annoying to the onlooker!

Take care of yourself

Looking good is not just about how you look from outside. You need to also take care and maintain your personal hygiene. Every one likes a partner who takes efforts to maintain personal care. Likewise, be healthy and you will shine out! Complement your outer efforts but with the internal ones. And wait and see the results! Nothing can stop you from being content!

Be a positive person

Last but not the least, yes, looking good is important. But that is not the be all and end all. You need to have a good and clean mindset for being a positive person. And being positive has its own advantages! Every one likes a good and positive person who makes the world an easier place to live in. Having said that, if you feel you are looking good at an instance, do not spoil it by being rude or negative. Positivity and good looks, hand in hand, is a sure shot winner!

Dating Rules – The Modern Look At It

Dating behavior has seen a definite change over the years. And you ‘must’ realize that so have the dating rules. It is no longer a necessary order that the man takes the lead. This is the 21st century and women are equal to men in all ways! The digital era has brought about a noticeable change and it is absolutely ‘okay’ to ask for a date on Facebook. In fact, this is a common phenomenon with the younger singles. The older ones are still hesitant about the digital media, but never mind that!

Here is a list of a few dating habits that every single person must definitely know about

1. Who said only he pays

Well, here is a win win situation for the boys! It is no longer necessary that the guy has to always pay the bill. If you believe the recent trend, girls do not really mind paying the bill. Well, well, now would that not encourage more of you boys to go on dates! Next time, on a first date, if she reaches out for her purse, do not over react! Work a mid way out! It is okay to let her pay.

2. Try being honest this time

You know within the first few minutes itself if you are or are not interested in the date. Don’t like the date, what is the point of extending it and creating a long list of misunderstandings! As a modern dating rule, you can politely inform your date that you are not interested in carrying the dating on for the second time. Remember to be polite and maintain your manners. You never know when you might bump into your date again in the future!

3. Finish off what you started

It is perfectly normal that your date does not go like you expected it to. You might not even like the person any more. However, remember this dating rule that no matter whether you like the date or not, finish off what you started. As a general rule, it is considered polite to go through with the date and finish off what you yourself began. This was always a mandate before and so it is a mandate now! You need to have that respect for your date. Do not leave mid way or start being rude. Finish off the date on a good note and make sure you come home with some happy memories in the box!

4. No More Waiting or No More the Wait Games

There was always a waiting game played after the first date. The girl or the guy would wait for 3-4 days before declaring their interest in each other. Fortunately, the modern dating rule is against that! Gone are the days of playing waiting games, the singles of today are rather quick to declare their interest in the dating partner. And don’t wait too long to confess your interest, he or she might just have taken off on another date by then!

5. There are no limitations what so ever!

Compatibility does not depend on race, religion or geography anymore. Although, these factors can contribute to the attractiveness of a person to another in general, they are not the prime factors in deciding a date. Compatibility truly does not depend on whether two people are from the same continent. If you like a person, approach them no matter what culture or religion they belong to.

6. If you are charming, you are a winner

Charm is what is in demand! You may be rich, handsome or even a body builder. But if you fail in the charm department, you are pretty not going to impress your date. Every partner likes a graceful date who has nice qualities. But if you cannot charm your date, what use are the other qualities! Next time before seeing a person, you can try being little sensitive to them. Thank you and sorry texts always work. A little surprise can never go wrong. Just try a few efforts to be charming and you will see the positive results yourself.

7. Your past is no longer your own

Well, if you are socially active and have a vibrant presence online, you must know that your date will also be having a look at that! That is nothing to worry because what is gone is in the past. Yet, don’t be surprised if your partner is well aware of your previous doings. In fact, the modern dating rules say that learn to embrace these things and look beyond these petty issues. If you like a person, like them with their past, present and future!

8. If you like the person, make sure to say that

As a last rule modern rule for dating, it is important to state your liking to your partner. It works no good to play waiting games or act coy. In fact, this could result in your partner loosing their interest in you. The simple fact is that no one has the time in the world to keep waiting for a positive answer. They want to get to know you as soon as possible and that can only happen if you show interest back. Playing waiting games can totally turn their mood off and you may be left wondering why you did that! Be honest and see the magical results!